Love is the foundation to many of the characteristics that allow us to be successful at work, in sports, and life in general. Below are three articles with their list of characteristics for success. After you read through the traits, I’ll discuss how Love is the foundation for some of these.
(From Janssen Sports Leadership Center)
- The Best Captains are Relentlessly Competitive and Compelled to Win
- The Best Captains Care Passionately
- The Best Captains Respect Others
- The Best Captains are Honest and Trustworthy
- The Best Captains Encourage their Teammates
- The Best Captains are the Hardest Workers
- Strong work ethic: Setting and achieving goals
- Dependable: Consistently following through
- Positive attitude: Creating a good environment
- Self-motivated: Working effectively with little direction
- Team-oriented: Making the most out of collaboration
- Effective communicator: Understanding the benefits of clarity
- Flexible: Adapting in a meaningful way
(From The Good Men Project)
These traits come from UCLA’s Family Studies Center that researched 1,500 couples who had been together for five or more years.The study revealed six common characteristics:
- There was a physical attraction between them.
- They were in the relationship out of clear choice rather than out of obligation or fear of being alone.
- They shared fundamental values, beliefs, interests, and goals.
- They were able to express anger clearly and directly and they resolved differences through communication and compromise.
- They experienced laughter, fun, pleasure, and play with each other.
- They were able to express support for each other and support each other’s activities, interests, and careers.
As a reminder here is my definition:
Love: the choice to care about a person, thing or idea, and to act accordingly.
I am going to start with the article, “What Your Marriage Needs to Survive” to look at how Love leads to success. In doing my research for this post I was struck by two of the characteristics revealed in the article.
They were in the relationship out of clear choice rather than out of obligation or fear of being alone.
They were able to express support for each other and support each other’s activities, interests, and careers.
Combined, these two traits show Love in action. Choosing to care about another person and to act accordingly, in this case to show support for their partner’s interests. This holds true for any relationship, really. Now, it might seem logical that Love is a part of marriage, so let’s look at the other two articles.
Hard work is listed as a trait for an employee and for a captain of a team. Hard work is Love.
Hard work is the choice to care about your goals or success and to act accordingly. To do what it takes to reach those goals.
For both Love and Success, you have to act accordingly. Team is also mentioned for both employees and sports. The concept of team is Love. To care about your teammates and your team’s goals, then to act accordingly. In the intro video with Gina Auriemma in the last post, he highlights this trait through the importance of body language of the players on the bench.
Love is not easy though. Success is not always guaranteed, at least in terms of wins and losses or landing your dream job. Life is too complex. But Love will lead to strength and true success in relationships, work, and other areas of life. And that type of success can be measured. It is called Pride. Pride is knowing you gave your best at whatever you are doing, that you chose to care and acted accordingly.
Why Love? The first answer is that it leads to success. Love is the foundation to traits that help us in sports, jobs, and relationships.
But it is not the only reason to choose Love. In the next post I will discuss how Love leads to Joy.