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Maintenance Required

They say life is a highway… Well, they sing it anyway.

It is a strong metaphor and I agree with the theme of the song, that life has twists and turns, and you drive the best you can to the next day. But I was walking this morning and noticed how the road has a crazy pattern of tar filled cracks. Not every road in my neighborhood is like this, but the road I walked this morning is the most used, needs the most maintenance.

Road with tar

No, I wasn’t listening to the song “Life is a Highway” but I was thinking about it and how actually, our everyday life is a road we travel over and over and over again. Yes, we adventure out onto the interstate, go someplace new, but really we travel the same roads during our routine of living.

Now, I’m not saying that is bad, but stay with me and the metaphor, the roads we travel everyday need maintenance from us, or they will become hard to travel. The routine roads we travel are not just our actions; it includes the people we see everyday. From our loved ones to the cashier we see every Saturday when we buy groceries. 

If we don’t maintain that road, those relationships, even ourselves, our everyday life becomes filled with potholes, cracks, and at some point will become so rundown we can’t travel down it. In extreme instances, we abandon that road and find another road to travel. But that road will fall into despair too.  

We can repair a damaged road, but that takes more energy, more time, more work than if we would simply maintain our life on a regular basis. Fill in cracks when they appear, paint new lines, take care of the people we have in our everyday life.

Life may be a highway, but living is a road we travel everyday. And maintenance is required.

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We Can’t Always See

truck

I had a small moment of road rage yesterday. I was following this cement truck when it came to a stop at an intersection. No turn signal, right or left. The traffic was flowing on our left. As we sat there for a few seconds I figured the truck was turning left. I will admit to being hypersensitive to things like turn signals because my son has his learning permit and I notice everything lately regarding traffic issues.

The traffic cleared on the left. I waited for the truck to turn, but instead a purple mini-van that was in front of the truck turned left.  I didn’t even see the mini-van until that moment. The cement truck then continued forward with me following along. I smirked at myself. I was quick to judge without seeing the whole picture. I then started to think about my college class.

For this first time in 14 years, I teach a lecture class on campus.  I have a mix of high school students, freshman, and non-traditional students. The non-traditional group is a mix of students.  I have students who are parents. Students that are trying college again. Students that have incredible stories. They amaze me with their dedication.

As I often do, I connected my small moment of road rage that was based on my bad judgment and the way we sometimes view others. We can’t always see the road the way they do.

The driver of the cement truck saw the purple mini-van. I did not. I was wrong to react the way I did (even if it was mostly in my head). We don’t see the road people have traveled to get to a certain point. But we will make a judgment (even if it is just in our head) that is misguided.

There is no easy solution to handling snap judgments, except maybe to realize we are all traveling a path.  And that the view of the journey is unique to our perspective. To be honest enough to recognize that we can be wrong. We can’t always see the factors influencing another driver but we are all sharing the road together.

 

 

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